Words of Wellness with Shelly
Do you get confused by all of the information that is available regarding ways to improve your health and wellness? Do you often become frustrated or overwhelmed with decisions on how to be your healthiest? We all know and understand how important our health and wellness is to the vitality of our lives, however navigating the wealth of health and wellness information available can often feel overwhelming. Understanding the significance of our well-being in leading fulfilling lives is crucial, yet determining what steps to take that are essential for our health can often be confusing.
Welcome everyone to "Words of Wellness"! In this podcast, hosted by Shelly Jefferis, M.A., a seasoned health and wellness professional with over 35 years in the industry, all of your questions will be answered and clarity will be provided through personal stories, education, tips and inspiration. Throughout her profession, Shelly has always had the heart and desire to help others feel their best and live their best lives through her supportive and compassionate approach. Through engaging solo and guest episodes, several topics will be addressed, questions will be answered and clarity will be provided in an effort to lead you to a healthier, more energetic life. With a master’s degree in kinesiology, extensive experience as an educator, speaker, coach, and entrepreneur, Shelly brings a wealth of knowledge and a genuine passion for empowering others to feel their best. By featuring industry experts and relatable individuals, the podcast promises personal stories, practical advice, and inspiration. She is excited to come to you weekly sharing all she has experienced, learned and discovered through the years. Whether you're seeking to elevate your well-being, gain practical insights for personal health, or simply be inspired to live a high quality vibrant life, this is the podcast is for YOU! Be sure to tune in weekly and join us along our "Words of Wellness" journey and embark on a path toward a healthier and more fulfilling quality of life full of happiness, energy and joy!
Words of Wellness with Shelly
Embracing Self-Love and Emotional Well-Being: Rhonda Morales' Inspiring Journey to Mental Wellness Transformation
Join us for a compelling conversation on Words of Wellness, where we unravel the profound impact of self-love and emotional well-being with the insightful Rhonda Morales, a seasoned mental health therapist. Explore the transformative journey of embracing self-love and breaking free from the constraints of early conditioning in emotionally dysfunctional environments. Rhonda's journey from such a background to becoming a guiding light in mental health provides real-life inspiration for anyone looking to foster healthier emotional and relational connections.
The discussion highlights the critical role of community and personal development, especially in the wake of social isolation. Rhonda touches on the increased demand for mental health services during the pandemic and she underlines the importance of self-care practices and taking part in activities that bring us joy! Emphasizing the acceptance of individual social needs, whether introverted or extroverted, valuable insights are given as to the importance of maintaining both mental and physical wellness through routine check-ins and therapy.
Discover the evolving perception of therapy and the importance of self-awareness in making aligned life choices. As the discussion centers around self-love, Rhonda shares practical tools such as setting boundaries and embracing emotions through activities that spark joy. This episode is packed with motivation and practical advice for those on their personal growth journey, encouraging a proactive approach to well-being and celebrating the openness in today's mental health discussions.
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Think of it as a journey, learn to think of it, believe it in your heart as a journey, not being perfect on a day-to-day basis, because it has nothing to do with your value.
Speaker 2:Do you get confused by all of the information that bombard us every day on ways to improve our overall health and our overall wellness? Do you often feel stuck, unmotivated or struggle to reach your wellness goals? Do you have questions as to what exercises you should be doing, what foods you should or should not be eating, how to improve your overall emotional and mental well-being? Hello everyone, I am so excited to welcome you to Words of Wellness. My name is Shelly Jeffries and I will be your host. My goal is to answer these questions and so much more to share tips, education and inspiration around all of the components of wellness through solo and guest episodes. With 35 plus years as a health and wellness professional, a retired college professor, a speaker and a multi-passionate entrepreneur, I certainly have lots to share. However, my biggest goal and inspiration in doing this podcast is to share the wellness stories of others with you, to bring in guests who can share their journey so that we can all learn together while making an impact on the health, the wellness and lives of all of you, our listeners. The ultimate hope is that you leave today with even just one nugget that can enhance the quality of your life, and that you will. We all will, now and into the future, live our best quality of lives, full of energy, happiness and joy. Now let's dive into our message for today. Into our message for today.
Speaker 2:Hello everyone, and welcome back to Words of Wellness. My name is Shelly Jeffries and I will be your host, and if you're listening for the first time, welcome. And for those of you who are back joining us, thank you for taking time out of your day to take a listen. I want to introduce my guest for today and I'm very excited to hear from her and learn more from her. She's a licensed mental health therapist for 20 years. A licensed mental health therapist for 20 years.
Speaker 2:She grew up in an emotional dysfunctional home which probably led her to what she's doing today, which we will hear more about. She loves helping others in their healing and personal development journey. It's her passion and her purpose. Rhonda Morales, welcome to Words of Wellness. I'm so happy to have you here and to hear about your journey.
Speaker 1:Thank you, and I am delighted to be here with you, shelly, and to share with your lovely audience all things self-love and all things related to self-love, and all things you know related to self-love, and you know maybe even some reasons why we have a hard time with self-love. So I look forward to sharing that information with your audience. Very much so. It's so foundational not only for an emotional our emotional wellbeing, but it's also very foundational for our relational wellbeing. We, you know we're wired to be connected and in community with other people and if we don't have self-love then it's going to be a lot harder in the relational department.
Speaker 2:Gosh, I love that and you know we've been talking just for a few minutes, but a real, real strong reason why I have been putting on and will continue to grow my Moms who Flourish, our in-person wellness events is for that reason, you're saying, is I am such a proponent and strong supporter of community and it's not that I just support it, but it is necessary. There's a need, and more so than ever, and I'm sure you see that and you know that, after having been shut down for a time even though it's been crazy to think five years but it's taken us time to get back into the routine of being with people in person and it's just. There's nothing that compares. There's nothing that compares.
Speaker 1:Oh for sure, Living in Florida, I did have a little bit of an advantage because in Florida, when the world, or when our well, yeah, the whole world, when we went into shutdown mode, I was on my paddleboard, I did not binge on Netflix and I did not clean my glasses because of course everybody was going through high anxiety. So I was very busy as a therapist. I did not have that little cocoon time to clean out and binge watch, which is fine. I'm delighted to have been in that role, in that capacity. And then, when I wasn't working, my therapy was get on the water and because we weren't, you know, in enclosed places, I was on my paddleboard, out, surrounded by nature. And you know, that was my decompression. Actually, that was my self-love, because I needed to do something for me, because that window when we were in closed down, that window was very intense for all of us as therapists. We were just slammed. We had, of course, the clients that we already had, that we already served. Plus, then it became which is a lovely byproduct of COVID was now, oh, mental health is okay to pursue. So those that weren't in the mental health world as far as being a client then reached out, and so we were very, very busy, so that was just kind of a little bit of a different experience for me as a therapist during closed down time.
Speaker 1:But yes, in community we are built for community, wired for community, and we need different doses of it, though. Right, we have the extroverts that need a lot of, a lot, a lot, a lot of community and engagement. We have those in the middle, and then we have more of the introverts, and it's a range, and being allowed to find ourselves within that range, you know, you're okay, you're perfectly wonderful if you're in the middle or you're more introvert, and that takes us back to self-love again. It's knowing and accepting who you are. I mean, I'm 5'2". I cannot make myself five seven. You know it's the acceptance of being.
Speaker 1:I've always been short, and that's that's. You know, there's not much that I can do about that, and our personality is somewhat what it is, although there's a lot of things that we can change about our attributes, especially the components that were fed into us in childhood. There's a lot of things that are conditioning, if you will, that make up our personality. We can do a whole lot to modify those things and then actually shift our personality, maybe from a high intensity or high anxious person to a more relaxed person. Yeah, that's possible, it's called. It's called therapy. Yeah, it's personal development journey and neuroplasticity. So, yeah, it's possible to change some aspects of who we are. But if you're an introvert, you're probably more of an introvert and extrovert and so forth. But anyway, yes, social connection is so important.
Speaker 2:It's so important and I love how you mentioned the different levels of it, because it can be a matter of meeting a friend for coffee. You mentioned the different levels of it, because it can be a matter of meeting a friend for coffee, be putting on an event, being in a small mastermind or being in a conference of where there's 10, 15, 20,000 people, right? So there's so many different levels and I think another point I really want to go back to that you touched upon is how the topic of mental health has become much more openly talked about in recent years. And you know it's so interesting because I've had conversations and even you know my daughter. You know she's very wise beyond her years. But talking about mental health, like our physical health, we go to the doctor for our physicals, so why are we?
Speaker 2:not going to a therapist for our mental health Right. So it's it's definitely to me it's it's not so much waiting until we have a, a crisis right.
Speaker 1:It's let's.
Speaker 2:Let's find someone we can talk to who has a a different perspective. They're they're outside of our world and they can see things differently and just give us insight that maybe we're not seeing. And I think that's such an important, an important thing to think about and have people realize that when we are talking to a therapist, it doesn't necessarily mean we are having issues. We all have issues, let's face it. But I mean we all have issues.
Speaker 2:We all have growth, we all have growth and I think back to, because my big area, which I know you know, is the wellness, the physical health, the nutrition, and I always say let's not wait until we get that diagnosis, let's not wait to make the change to get our health in order. So same thing with our mental health. So can you, could you share a little bit on that? And also, how did you get involved with becoming a therapist?
Speaker 1:Okay, yes, remind me to circle back to the second, because I'm going to address the first one you brought up first. Yes, to be more preventative, to be in therapy because you have this big crisis, then therapy is only really about that crisis. It's putting out that fire. So I really don't that's helpful, but that's not the personal development, growth, opportunity work that takes a person, maybe leading them away from maybe having some of those crises. So an example might be back to self-love If someone doesn't love themselves or know themselves and that ties into the one I want you to remind me about If you don't know yourself or you don't love yourself, then you may find yourself in a pattern, a repeated pattern of being in relationships with unhealthy people that don't really treat you very nicely, and that is on them. But it is also on us to learn what our patterns are and have boundaries so that we don't, in you know, continue to engage with people that are emotionally unavailable or emotionally abusive in and other things. Right, that's on us. So if we're just trying to not heal, but we're trying to address the crisis that brings you into therapy, then we're hopefully, yes, the crisis is averted and you are out of that and in my made up example here, you're out of that toxic relationship. But what we don't want to miss is the actual therapy part, which is now let's talk about your pattern, let's talk about why you keep circulating through these toxic, negative relationships and I'm talking about romantic relationships, even platonic friendships. That is the primo. That's the stuff you really want to address in therapy versus okay, I'm in another fire, can you help me out. Therapy versus okay, I'm in another fire, can you help me out.
Speaker 1:I mean that to me that is just living a chaotic life, right, we? We sometimes call it oh, there's, they're so full of drama. Well, if you're so full of drama or there's so much chaos in the life, that is very well exemplified of not having healthier emotional skills, so that we don't engage in so much chaos and engage in so much drama. That's the real point also of therapy, not just to get us out of the tight spots that we often find myself included that we find ourselves in. So that's more of the preventative.
Speaker 1:The preventative, then, would entail unlearning unhealthy behavioral or thinking patterns, right, unlearning those and replacing those unhealthy thinking and behavioral patterns with new healthy thinking and new healthy behavior. So that is very preventative and then people will live much more calm, enjoyable, peaceful lives. That would be a great goal. And to your other question of how did I become a therapist Is that right? How did I? How did I? Did you? Did you want to join in and mention anything or talk about anything that I just said before we go to how I became a therapist.
Speaker 2:Well, I think what comes to mind is helping the listeners and just people in general understand the magnitude of our mind and how, how exciting it is that we can change our thinking, Even if we are stuck in a mode where we feel like we can't get out. It's, you know, it is years of of learning and growing and wisdom and personal development and all of the things that help us understand how we operate, how we see things, and know that, like you're saying, so much of what we think about and our attitudes and how we're shaped started when we were, you know, little little kids. And so another point that I love that you're kind of talking about, that so much of it stems from early on, and it's not that it's all bad at all, but for us to understand that that's that's what shapes us. So if there's something maybe doesn't really align with who we are today, or if we went through something tragic growing up knowing full well that we can address it, we can heal from it.
Speaker 2:And things are amazing, right.
Speaker 1:Yes, absolutely, yes, absolutely. I mean the, the relearning, the reprogramming, the rewiring, whatever you want to call it. That is all that is going to have a huge impact on how we develop as kids. Think of our, our little minds being those sponges that, just that soak up all of those messages, both spoken, and then what we derive ourselves, right as it may not be a spoken message, but what we deduce as a six-year-old or an eight-year-old ourselves oh, I'm not lovable unless I do what mommy tells me to do. You know we can and then that I'm not lovable or I'm not good enough follows us right into adulthood. There's nothing magical that happens when we turn 18 or 21 that wipes out the unhealthy conditioning that's been deposited in us. No, that's when we have to roll up our sleeves and do the work of learning healthy thinking and healthy behaviors.
Speaker 1:If we have been affected by the, you know more of the negative or toxic stuff, but parents can only give us what they have. So the onus is on us as adults to take that step of personal development. It's not like we're failures. It does, though, kind of make us feel as though we are disadvantaged, I think, as adults, when we grow up in dysfunctional homes. I believe we are emotionally disadvantaged because we haven't been prepared to make adult choices that are healthy adult choices.
Speaker 1:So we make a lot of really crummy adult choices. We haven't been prepared, we haven't been taught to think healthy ways, to think of ways that are in the self-love realm, in the self-love realm, again, choosing relationships that are not healthy because, well, I'm not worth anything else, I just have to take what I can get. So, yes, all of that really is on us. It's not fair that it's on us. But if we want a different trajectory for ourselves and for our families, to model for our family something different than what we received in the modeling, then we have to do the work of developing the healthy skills so we make much healthier choices. That just takes us down a path that is a more successful way of living. And I don't mean success in money standpoint, I mean success in the wellness emotional wellness, physical wellness, mental wellness. That's the direction that we want to go. But we will have to do the work if we grow up in dysfunctional homes for that to be possible.
Speaker 2:I love this and I mentioned to you before we started that I'm excited to have this conversation with you and to have you on as a guest, as I know full well that there are so many different aspects of wellness that make us complete, and it's meant to be perfect in any of the areas, like my event this last weekend. We talked about gut health, we talked about financial health, we talked about social media habits. We talked about some different topics. So when we talk about wellness and I always will say we tend to think about.
Speaker 2:I used to tell my college students all the time that in my health classes, we tend to think about health in the physical aspect. What are we doing? Are we actually taking in good nutrition, which is, of course, absolutely important, but there are all these different other elements of it, and so the mental wellness and the health of our mental capacity is so critical, and I realized that I it's a topic that I haven't had on my podcast as much as I would like to, and that's not on purpose, it's just I haven't. There's been a lot of other topics that we've shared and we've touched them on mental health a little bit, but again, it's huge. It's, it's a huge topic.
Speaker 2:It's very important and I think it's very, again, reassuring and exciting to know for anyone who might be struggling or might feel like they're alone in what they're experiencing. You know, we've all. We all have our stuff right. We all have it. Oh, yeah, oh gosh yes. And how much have we been able to deal with it and what tools do we have to deal with?
Speaker 1:it.
Speaker 1:That that's, along the way, what's going to determine, you know, like you say, our success, and then, if we have to seek, out more professional help than we do and yeah, you know it's a beautiful part of that of that extra professional help, whether it's a coach or a therapist, is that we're working with another perspective. Right? If I've, only if I'm trying to get myself out of a pickle or out of a situation, I've only got Rhonda's mind and Rhonda's mindset. I may, I may I might be missing another perspective that could be very helpful, you know, and we're back to community again and not doing this journey all by ourselves.
Speaker 1:Many of us, myself included, we grew up in silos. We were a family of five, but we all lived in our individual silo. The tendency is then, when we get into adulthood, the tendency is then, when we get into adulthood, well, I just need to do everything myself. And then we've cheated ourselves out of the benefit of working with other people that have a different perspective, that can see things differently and help us. We help each other. So it's getting out of the silo type of mentality and allowing, giving permission to a community or a social learning kind of setup.
Speaker 2:It's making me think, and I'm sure I'm not the only one in this regard but sometimes, when my husband and I are having a little bit of a challenge, I often go gosh, I wish there was a third person right here.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:Could be saying okay, you know, and giving us a little bit of a perspective from the outside, because you do, you get so kind of with each other and you know, my husband and I we've been together for 35 plus years and so I feel like and I'm super grateful for this fact that we've grown together and we're still it's all. You're still always learning, like the community is always a journey, and I really do. I feel very blessed that we're. We are continually being open and learning from each other. But there are those moments where I'm like, maybe next time, rhonda, I'm going. Rhonda, can you come into this conversation with us please?
Speaker 1:I am so honored to hear my clients say Rhonda, I hear you saying this in my head. It's such an honor because it just means that I've given them a tool that is there for them to use. I've just helped them see the tool. But it's such an honor to hear a client say that. I hear you saying this in my head. But I will confess, yes, even as a therapist and I teach this stuff every single day I still have my own dilemmas, and I'll just share briefly what happened this morning.
Speaker 1:And this falls into self-love too. What keeps us from self-love oftentimes is self-criticism. You know, we can have that critic that just is going to town on our shoulder. Well, I went this morning for blood work and I'm just like, oh, this is such a breeze. I did my morning routine without my coffee. But I did my morning routine smooth sailing to quest for my blood work. And I get there and she says do you have your paperwork? I'm like, oh my gosh, I left it on the kitchen counter, a place where I could grab it before I left. She said I got you, you're close by. Go get it and come back, you know. And I heard faintly that parental oh, you should have put it in your car the night before. What do you mean? You forgot it. And I'm like, nope, we're not going there.
Speaker 1:So learning how to manage your narrative, and saying, nope, we're not going to go down that self-critical path, it's fine, she's going to. Let me come back. I know I have the paperwork, I know where it is, it's not that far. And just shifting the narrative and I kept looking at my Apple Watch and like, okay, what's my beats per minute? Oh, it's still pretty low. Okay, I'm doing good. So using the tools can help us. You know, even in situations like what I just described, you can learn a lot, you can grow a lot and you're always going to need tools because life is not going to stop dishing out the challenges. So I just throw that out. We're always given opportunities to use our tools.
Speaker 2:For sure. And we none of us are perfect, right, so we have to always remember in our brain that, hey, people make mistakes, it's okay.
Speaker 2:And I love when you're talking about having the tools and I was going to. I was reminded as you were talking about having coaches for different areas. You know we were talking before we started that we probably met and connected at a Brendan Burchard event, which he is a mentor for both of us, and you know you have someone like Brendan Burchard, the highest performance coach in the world, and people like.
Speaker 2:Mylet openly say I have a health coach, I have a therapist, I have a business coach. So when you know that these most successful people in the world have these coaches for these different areas that you know, it's reaffirming.
Speaker 2:Not that we're striving to be like them per se, but I love how real they both are and what they're there because you know we've been to their events and it's just again, I think, who might be questioning, um, you know whether or not to have a coach? You listen to someone like that and I think that's just more of a confirmation that, yes, it doesn't again mean you have to be in crisis mode, but these different coaches are giving us tools in these different areas of wellness in our lives to help us to live complete, healthy, happy lives, and I think that bears repeating for people and for our listeners to go. That's true. Like it's okay, I need to seek out wherever I might need more assistance and guidance and tools. It's a positive thing.
Speaker 2:You know, I think back. I just now had a memory when I was in high school. I remember I was talking to a therapist at one point and back then many of those you know we're talking decades ago it wasn't openly shared, like, I don't even remember I might've told my closest friends, but back then it wasn't something that people would openly share because, again, it was associated with something being wrong. Right, it's so different now. It's so different, which is a wonderful, wonderful thing, and I was going to just quickly share with our listeners. If you hear us talking about self-love. You hear Rhonda talking about self-love. Tomorrow is Valentine's Day and when you do hear this this episode, it will be past Valentine's Day. But we are talking about self love today because that's what's kind of in the air right now, right?
Speaker 1:Definitely. I think a lot of people associate self love, though, with, okay, I'm going to go get my nails done or I'm going to go get a massage, and those things can be self-love. But there's a lot of other ways to develop a self-love practice. Number one, and they don't cost money, and that is number one saying no to things that you don't want to do, right. So self-love we can build and develop self-love. While we allow the people-pleasing parts to get smaller, we let that kind of diminish and we grow and build self-love. So that's one way that doesn't require money and doesn't require some of the things that we think or associate with self-love. Another way to show self-love would be to ask for help, very akin to what you were just describing. I grew up with the teaching that if you could do it yourself, you should do it yourself. You're kind of lazy if you don't do it yourself. So it took a lot of unlearning for me to ask for help and and and hire out certain aspects in life. I had to unlearn that conditional teaching that I was taught as a child, and what we do is we leverage their help and we use that time for something that maybe we can only do? I mean I have a housekeeper come in and she cleans the house, which I hate to do. I mean I have a housekeeper come in and she cleans the house, which I hate to do. I will do the yard work all day long, but I hate cleaning the house. While she's cleaning the house, I'm seeing clients. I I'm the only one that can do that. I love doing that, so why not hire somebody to clean the house while I do what I'm good at and what I love to do? So it's a whole new way of thinking. As far as asking for help and I will just dash in here as well we are more apt to ask for help for our kids. Let's hire them a baseball coach. Let's hire them a baseball coach, a basketball coach. Let's get a math tutor. Why is it okay for us to get help for them and not help for us?
Speaker 1:Moving on to a third example of self-love would be to allow yourself to feel your feelings, and I have this pillow that I lean against. It's called a feelings wheel. All of my clients have. Well, they don't necessarily have the pillow, but they have a picture of the feelings wheel, and we knowing how we feel helps us to make better aligned decisions, and it kind of goes back to number one say no to things you don't want to do. How do you feel about doing that thing? How do you feel about that invite? Now you can answer in a way that's kind to you instead of appeasing.
Speaker 1:And then the fourth thing that I'll mention, as far as self-love and a practice to start, is doing things that bring you joy. I mentioned earlier what brings me joy. Part of my therapy is paddleboarding Brings me great therapy to paddleboard, to be surrounded by nurture or nature. And then, oh my goodness, if a manatee comes up and plays with me and my board and wants to play and push my board around, I'm in heaven. So doing things whether it's paddleboarding or artistic expression, dancing, whatever it is that bring you joy, those are some great self-love examples that go beyond. Well, I'll go get my nails done or I'll go get a massage. Personally, I don't care for either one of those. So there's lots of ideas as far as ways to show love to yourself and I hope that that list of four things can get your juices started and thinking about how can you better show yourself some love.
Speaker 1:And I want to just kind of go back to your one of your questions, shelly how did I become a therapist in the self-love realm? I can answer that I didn't know myself when I graduated high school, and that's, of course, when we're making these decisions. So what do you want to be when you grow up? And I ended up choosing a profession, and I went to college for something that I thought would just pay the bills, so it had nothing to do with my gifts or talents. It had nothing to do with what I was interested in doing, and therein lies knowing ourselves is a practice of self-love, because we can't make aligned choices if we don't know who we are. So I ended up. My first career was a CPA, a certified public accountant. I did estate and trust taxes and really did not do too well. It's funny how people in the firm would come into my office, though, and just plop in a chair and tell me the journey is interesting.
Speaker 1:Well then, I met somebody through a church that I was attending, and it's it's a longer story, but I was led through that meeting to then learn what I was indeed gifted to do. That was a prayer that I would, you know, show me what I'm going to be impassioned in doing. And I had gone to a library to get this book to help this girl that I met at church who was going through a thing, and I was reading this book at the kitchen table thing. And I was reading this book at the kitchen table and all of a sudden, I just started crying because it the light went on that I was being shown. This is your passion, this is your purpose. And that prayer got answered and I went back to school and got my master's degree in mental health counseling. And, yeah, I, every tax season I say, oh, I am so glad.
Speaker 2:Oh my gosh, you must be so extremely grateful, and you'd probably celebrate every season.
Speaker 1:I do, I yeah, I'm going to paddleboard instead of working 65 hours on tax return.
Speaker 2:Yes, absolutely. Oh my gosh, I love that, and the idea of going out and paddleboarding sounds amazing, amazing. I know I want to be conscientious of your time and our listeners time. How can our listeners find you, rhonda? I will put your information in the show notes. What's the way to reach out?
Speaker 1:Rhondamoralescom and on Instagram Rhonda Morales Wellness. So it's Rhonda R-H-O-N-D-A RhondaMoralescom and Rhonda Morales Wellness on Instagram.
Speaker 2:I just I so appreciate you being on today. I've loved the conversation and I I think it's just so important and I I guess I just want to ask what would be some final thoughts, words of inspiration, encouragement that you would want to leave with our listeners.
Speaker 1:Oh boy, I think a lot of folks struggle with perfectionism and if you are one of those folks, me saying to you it's not about being perfect, it's about the journey. I was so focused on goals that it took me a long time to get the here in my heart and spirit. It took me a long time to understand the journey, the work, the joy of the journey. That would be something that I would encourage you to dive into. Personal development work we're all able, and if you're willing, then you're able to grow and become who you want to become, not what somebody else wants you to become, but who do you wanna become, right? So it's an exciting journey.
Speaker 1:I would very much encourage you to think of it as a journey, learn to think of it, believe it in your heart as a journey, not being perfect on a day-to-day basis, because it has nothing to do with your value. Your value is is immense, and it's it's. It's stated while you're asleep in bed, not doing anything, that you're already valuable. So being perfect to be valuable, it's a myth. Don't, don't bite the bait bait. That would be something that I would really share. To grow, to become who you want to become, and and look at that perfectionistic uh boulder and and laser that boulder. So it's not, it's not managing you anymore.
Speaker 2:I love that and you know, going back to the journey, it really truly is a journey and I'm so happy that you finished with that. I I had a little talk with myself a few weeks ago as I was, you know, stressing a little bit about my event, and then I told myself, if you're going to spend the next few weeks stressed, what is the point? If you're not enjoying this process, then what's the point of doing this? And I really, literally right then and there I did a complete switch and it changed everything, and that's such an important point to remember in all aspects of our lives.
Speaker 2:So thank you, thank you for that message and thank you so much for taking time with us today. This has been wonderful and you're just a bright, positive light.
Speaker 1:So I appreciate it, thank you. Thank you so much. Well, hello to all of your audience, to those your, to the those that are on the podcast podcast. It's been a pleasure to speak with you and to be here with you, shelly. I wish you all just a great rest of your day and I know this is post Valentine's by the time you hear it but I do hope that you'll start thinking of Valentine's Day in a self-love capacity. And what can you do to show your self-love? Because, remember, you're modeling self-love for your kids, for your neighbors. People are watching you. How do you model self-love for you and be a role model for those people that you know are watching and you know there's always people that we aren't even aware of that are watching so, self-love every single day because you're worth it, you're valuable and you're worthy. So lovely to be with you. I'm going to scoot off for my four o'clock client.
Speaker 2:Well, thank you. I'm going to thank everyone for listening and do something for your wellness today and always, and until next time, have a beautiful, blessed rest of your week, everyone. Thank you for listening and we'll see you next time. Thank you so much for tuning into today's episode. I hope you gained value and enjoyed our time together as much as I did, and if you know someone who could benefit from today's episode, I would love and appreciate it if you could share with a friend or rate and review words of wellness so that more can hear this message. I love and appreciate you all. Thank you for listening and if you have any questions or topics you would like me to share in future episodes, please don't hesitate to reach out to me through my contact information that is shared in the show notes below. Again, thank you for tuning in to Words of Wellness. My name is Shelly Jeffries and I encourage you to do something for you, for your wellness, on this day. Until next time, I hope you all have a healthy, happy and blessed week. Thank you you.