Words of Wellness with Shelly
Do you get confused by all of the information that is available regarding ways to improve your health and wellness? Do you often become frustrated or overwhelmed with decisions on how to be your healthiest? We all know and understand how important our health and wellness is to the vitality of our lives, however navigating the wealth of health and wellness information available can often feel overwhelming. Understanding the significance of our well-being in leading fulfilling lives is crucial, yet determining what steps to take that are essential for our health can often be confusing.
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Words of Wellness with Shelly
Balancing Career, Family, and Wellness: Relle Dixon and Her Inspiring Journey To Holistic Wellness
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Imagine a world where food isn't just sustenance but a powerful tool for healing. In this episode, we uncover the transformative power of nutrition as an alternative or complement to traditional medicine. Through personal stories, we emphasize the importance of addressing health issues at their root rather than just masking symptoms. Discover how mindful nourishment can reverse the effects of under-eating and over-exercising, which often lead to autoimmune disorders, and learn why listening to your body is crucial for long-term well-being.
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pick one thing and focus on that, get better at it every day and then, once you feel like it's just part of your life, then take on the next thing. You know, just encouraging people not to overcomplicate fitness and nutrition, because you want it to be a lifelong, sustainable, healthy habit.
Speaker 2:Do you get confused by all of the information that the bar does every day on ways to improve our overall health and our overall wellness? Do you often feel stuck, unmotivated or struggle to reach your wellness goals? Do you have questions as to what exercises you should be doing, what foods you should or should not be eating, how to improve your overall emotional and mental well-being? Hello everyone, I am so excited to welcome you to Words of Wellness. My name is Shelley Jeffries and I will be your host. My goal is to answer these questions and so much more to share tips, education and inspiration around all of the components of wellness through solo and guest episodes. With 35 plus years as a health and wellness professional, a retired college professor, a speaker and a multi-passionate entrepreneur, I certainly have lots to share. However, my biggest goal and inspiration in doing this podcast is to share the wellness stories of others with you, to bring in guests who can share their journeys so that we can all learn together while making an impact on the health, the wellness and lives of all of you, our listeners. The ultimate hope is that you leave today with even just one nugget that can enhance the quality of your life, and that you will. We all will, now and into the future, live our best quality of lives, full of energy, happiness and joy. Now let's dive into our message for today happiness and joy. Now let's dive into our message for today.
Speaker 2:Hello everyone and welcome back to Words of Wellness. My name is Shelly and I will be your host, and I'm excited to introduce everyone to my guest today. She is a multi-passionate working mom and wife, and she thrives while juggling multiple responsibilities like nurturing her faith, her love for fitness, personal development and mental health. She has her days filled with balancing her career or marriage, and she has two active boys who are heavily involved in sports. Oh boy, can I relate to that? She firmly believes in showing up as the best version of herself, and not only for her own well-being, but also for her family, and that is right, along with my heart as well. She also believes that we shouldn't take things so seriously, so what's the point of doing all our daily activities if we can't have fun and laugh along the way? So, rell, welcome to Words of Wellness. I'm so excited to have you.
Speaker 1:Thank you so much for having me. I'm excited to be here.
Speaker 2:This is so great and we've been trying to do this so for our listeners, we've been scheduling and rescheduling and then working with our time difference and all of the things, and so today we made it happen. So I'm super excited.
Speaker 1:Yes, me too.
Speaker 2:So we were talking a little bit before we started recording that. I mean, we have very, very similar interests and and lots in alignment, and you've been involved in fitness and nutrition now, for it's been a part of your life for how long?
Speaker 1:um, since high school. Honestly, I've always been just interested in fitness. Of course it started with fitness, you know nutrition came later, for sure, but yeah, I would say since high school yeah, and that's so very, very similar.
Speaker 2:I started back then too. I actually my love of running and fitness started in my PE class in junior high which is so crazy, but kind of the same kind of thing so so many years ago and it just stuck and so I love it, and you I know we were talking a little bit ago that going to events is a big deal and we've gone to some very similar ones in the past and I know you, like myself, are very motivated. We have some of those mentors out there that are very active in the area of wellness and personal development and being high performance coaches, like Brendan Burchard and my let, and it's so great to have mentors like that right Just to be able to look up to and to learn from.
Speaker 1:Yes, and you know I just love that they're, they're accessible at, just at your fingertips. You know I can listen to Ed and Lori and Brendan every single day. And you know I can listen to Ed and Lori and Brendan every single day and um, and I do you know, like there is not a day that goes by that I don't listen to one of those people who is like positively impacted my life and I used to always joke all the time because I would like you know, hop on my stories and and like, announce some takeaways, and I'd be like my friend Lori we haven't met yet, but she doesn't know that we hang out every day, but we do.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you're going to be a Sunday. You'll, you'll, it'll, you'll prove to be true. It'll be. You would have met, she'd be a friend. So it's all good You're speaking it out in advance, right, right, yeah, she's, she's awesome, she both she and her husband Chris, are an amazing couple.
Speaker 2:I've I've loved them for years. So wonderful mentors and role models. For sure you are doing some coaching in the area of nutrition and fitness, and how? How did you get started in that? I mean, I know it's it's it's these events that we've talked about, but was that kind of really what lit a fire for you to get to get going with it?
Speaker 1:Yeah, you know it really was.
Speaker 1:So I, I have been a part of this fitness and nutrition program that I coached called the fast rate of fat loss. I've been a part of that um for a little over three years now, and when I decided to become a client, I was just, you know, I was. I was at a place where I was doing all the things that had always worked for me, you know. That had always kept me healthy and that had always, you know, kept me going. But, like for the last several years, I just like, with low energy, I was feeling super fatigued. I was starting to gain weight, you know, not not anything that was, like you know, unhealthy weight by any means, but just like I wasn't comfortable in my skin anymore. And and the thing that bothered me the most out of all of that was just that, mentally, I was going through these just roller coasters and waves of just depression and anxiety and I couldn't get a handle on it. And, you know, ever since I had had babies, I had been off and on of antidepressants, you know, and that would help for a while, and then I didn't, and then, and those had their own set of side effects that I just didn't love. And then, you know, I was trying to eat eat healthy and I was staying very active. I was actually running every single day. It was doing all the things that I thought. You know, we're right, I was spending time in devotion. I was doing the journaling I was, you know, it was setting goals for myself and celebrating small wins, like everything that was supposed to help me mentally. It wasn't working anymore. And, um, I had, at the same time, well, like a few months before I became a client to this program, um went to my physician and just like, explain, like there's got to be something going on here and like, and I don't want your antidepressants, can we talk about something else? So they went through like a whole autoimmune panel and I did have some autoimmune disorders that weren't being controlled and I, so I kind of got passed from specialist to specialist but nobody, nobody gave me any guidance on how to, how to deal with them and there wasn't necessarily, you know, medication that was an option right away. And, um, they were just kind of like, well, I have to wait until it gets worse to start treating things, and I was like it's going to get worse. What do you mean? I don't think I can handle it getting worse.
Speaker 1:So I was like I've got to lean into food as medicine. I knew that. I knew that there would be healing in food if I just had somebody that could teach me. Um, so that's where I got started with the program. I needed somebody to tell me how much I was supposed to eat, when I was supposed to eat it, what foods to avoid to reduce inflammation, and somebody to hold me accountable, because I, you know, I will, I will show up for everybody else and I'll help you with your goals and make sure you stay on track, but I'll let myself down every day, you know. So I needed somebody to help me do that.
Speaker 1:And, and that was really eyeopening for me, as I went through that program, I did find a lot of healing, physically and mentally, and then I was still kind of going through those ways. You know, every once in a while it was getting better, but I still had some things that I needed to work through and some unhealthy habits with fitness and nutrition that I hadn't quite yet understood why those were unhealthy habits? Um, like I was obsessively running every single day, so like I had, like this 857 day long running streak, for example, and I that started as a really healthy thing for me mentally and it served me for positive, served me in a positive way for a long time. But, um, what I didn't realize at the time was that was exasperating my autoimmune disorders and it was. It was making them worse, and so it took me a long time to, you know, break up with that and and try some different approaches to to fitness and and matching that with my nutrition and then again, like things can just start to feel better. You know, like it was a.
Speaker 1:It was a long road of recovery for me and um, and then once I went to growth day, like we talked about, I just knew like I was made for more, I was meant to do more and I I knew that God, god, was going to use me to serve people in a positive way. Um, in a way that I that I wasn't already doing and I just I needed to find it. So that's really how I kind of got um put in, like thrown into coaching was I was like what, what can I do that? Um, it's going to come easy to me. Like what could I share with people that you know wouldn't feel like hard work, you know, and it was. That was it. I was like it's fitness and nutrition, it's, it's the, it's the um, the things that I do every day that come easy to me, that don't come easy to everybody else.
Speaker 1:But also it was that I needed to share my story. It was that there's so many people that suffer in silence with their depression and their anxiety, and that's that is a symptom of something else bigger, and and people don't go looking for that unless they have the knowledge or the empowerment to do so. So I just said I was like I was going to make sure I was going to advocate, help people, advocate for themselves, make sure that they were, you know, able to fuel their body in a in a way that was going to give them energy and and just to keep keep searching for their purpose too. So I kept. I tried so many things, honestly. Um, I tried a blog, which it's still active, but, um, I was like I just kept like all these little things until it led me to the coaching event came about, when with the program that I was following and I was like maybe this is it and um, so I checked it out and I got.
Speaker 1:I got interviewed and the lady that interviewed me I'm just, you know, having a conversation with her about how I felt like I was made for more and I was just searching for some purpose and a little bit about my story with the program, and she was like, I mean, nobody has ever believed in me than this stranger that I met for a 20 minute call and she just helped me so full of hope and I was so grateful for that, and I got off that call thinking like, okay, I prayed for clarity this week and God just laid it out for me. So that's how I got started in coaching.
Speaker 2:Kind of long story long started in coaching, kind of long story long. I love it. There's so many important points that you bring up and I just want to make sure that you know the listeners are really, you know, honing in on a lot of it, because it's so so many different areas, like, for example, how much, like you said, food can be our medicine. Like it's, so it's so. I don't know if the word prevalent is what I want to say right now, but it's being shared now more than ever, thank the Lord, because it's so true, and it's never in any way, shape or form to bash medicine. Because we need medicine, yeah Right, but for yours, like you're saying, you know you wanted to find another alternative. And the other part of what you're sharing, too, is how we don't always get to the root of what's causing the issues that we're having, and so much of the time the pills or the medication can will mask it and then it's never discovered. And, like you and I were talking before we started recording, how many people are walking around accepting either an illness or just accepting being foggy brain or being tired or having low energy and just not feeling good, accepting it, thinking this is just how it's going to be, or this is how I'm supposed to feel, and not realizing that no, there's. So there's so much more out there, like right, it feels so much better and have so much more energy.
Speaker 2:And you know, it was really eyeopening for me about a little over 10 years ago when I I added some, some nutrition products into my day-to-day routine and I had tried a lot of different products through the years with being, you know, my profession in the wilderness and nutrition industry.
Speaker 2:But it was the first time, 10 years plus ago, that I actually noticed a difference in how I felt and and this was I was I went into it, going, I'm pretty healthy, I feel pretty good, but let me give this a try and I just I talk about that a lot because coming from and yourself as well, coming from an active lifestyle and doing many things that are healthy and going well, I feel good but then not realizing, oh my gosh, I can feel this much better. And I always that's always kind of a big deal for me personally, because coming back again, coming from that standpoint of having that active lifestyle already and living a pretty healthy lifestyle already and then going and just, and then even feeling even better, was really eyeopening for me. You know it really was, and so I just think about most of the average people out there are probably just content with, with underperforming.
Speaker 2:Yeah, exactly Just, and not not maybe many of them not even realizing right, they don't really realize that they could feel better, they could have more energy, they could sleep better. All of the things that you know, you're, you're talking about and it's such a big deal, and so much of it, like you're saying, is related to how we are fueling our bodies. It's a big deal.
Speaker 1:Too many years of under eating and over exercising, and, and that is what triggered these autoimmune disorders to start in the first place, because I spent how many years I mean over a decade in calorie deficit.
Speaker 1:It wasn't supporting the needs of my body and so when, when you're doing that for so long, it just starts to wreak havoc on your body and then and then I made it sort of attacking itself. So, you know, that's um, that's a whole different journey, like trying to control that now and reversing it. Um, and and while I'm on thyroid medication now, which has been so helpful to um to treat the symptoms that I was, you know, suffering with the most, um, but I still think, like I'm hopeful, that I won't need that forever. I think that once I do get a hang, uh, you know, like spend more years treating my body nicely, um, but I may not need to be on that hormone forever that I might be able to eventually back off of it. But you know, for now I'm so grateful that I can use nutrition to support that while my body is learning to trust itself again.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 2:You know, yeah, so, so good. And this is again. This is such an important conversation because how many other individuals women, moms are maybe going through the same thing and this is giving them permission to go? Oh my gosh, I'm not the only one, or I'm not alone. There is hope, like you're saying, and you know, as we were talking earlier, you know we always there's always hope, right, there's always right for something to get better, and it's never too late to start. It's never, ever too late.
Speaker 2:So I oh, this is this is such such an important conversation, so many different points to it, and I love it's. I love you sharing your journey because it's just so real and I feel like, again, there's going to be so many listeners out there that can relate to to at least some part of what, what you've experienced, and it's, it's really, really great. I appreciate you sharing everything. Of course, it's in going back to the running part. You know that's so interesting because that's been a lot part of my life since, again, junior high. But you, you do make shifts, you do kind of listen to your body more as you get older and go.
Speaker 2:Okay, like today I went out, but I mostly walked and I ran a little bit, but I walked and just making those adjustments and a lot of times I think we get involved and this is something that I've shared with with clients and students through the years the importance of doing a variety of activities. But it's so funny because you get involved in this is something that I've shared with with clients and students through the years the importance of doing a variety of activities, but it's so funny because you get involved in something that you enjoy and you love and so you, you know it's something that's part of your day-to-day life. So it's so interesting that you realize that it was actually becoming detrimental and, like you say, the calorie deficit deficit you know definitely taken.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I was just never eating enough to support the output of energy I was putting, you know, I mean, and let alone not even just the exercise, but like just the amount of energy I needed from food to be able to support, like my hormone production or digestion or the you know, even to get proper rest.
Speaker 1:It was just all of those things that were just again like when it, when you have down-regulated so many systems of your body for so long, it eventually just kind of starts to be like it's like a whole fire going on in there and it needed attention and the running for me, like and I still like I don't run that often anymore, just because now I'm kind of like I just love walking, but, um, because I was, I used to run like half marathons and I did, you know all the things um, the hard part was that I like what it, what it was doing.
Speaker 1:For me it was just it was too much intense um cardio. But you know, if I would have kept at it and just kept it down to like three days a week, I probably would have been okay. But I think that because I had taken that up and I was doing the every single day, that made the my autoimmune disorder so much worse. But at the same time, if I hadn't done that, I probably wouldn't have discovered that I had that and I probably would have gone on for much longer um, before I was able to seek help and find healing with finding the right physician and finding the right, the right protocol for nutrition and fitness. But really what I was doing is just making my cortisol levels spike out of control and that was that was kind of messing up everything.
Speaker 2:So you just don't realize when you're in the thick of it.
Speaker 1:And you can look, you know you think, oh, oh, running selfie, yeah, right, right, right.
Speaker 1:I just wasn't doing it in a healthy way and mentally, you know, it became to where it was like it was affecting my life out, like if I had to get it in.
Speaker 1:You know, it was like if I was, it wasn't a good mood if I hadn't got my run in for the day because I was stressed out that I wasn't gonna in my streak when I wasn't ready, or, um, if I didn't get so many miles, or if I wasn't going to end my streak when I wasn't ready, or, um, if I didn't get so many miles, or if I didn't, you know, get a certain time, um, and then it was like I wouldn't do my strength training all in which is what was best for me, um, because I didn't want it to ruin my run for the next day, you know. So it was like it was starting to affect me in ways that weren't healthy, um, and I was kind of starting to like I could, I could kind of see that, and so it was hard to end it, cause I had it been going for so long, but I was like today it has to end, and it was hard to sit there and not like like I had to break up with my step counter, everything we broke up for over a year. It was like we're not counting steps, we're not looking at that. It was hard Cause I that was a whole other like. It was like I broke up with some, something you know.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but good, good for you. My gosh, that's amazing that you were able to have that realization and then take those major steps, because it was adding, like you're saying, it was more detrimental to your health. It was adding more stress.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it was helping until it wasn't.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's meant to help release stress, not add more to to yourself, your body, physically and mentally. Um, and how long ago did you start to make that journey where you shifted away from that lifestyle?
Speaker 1:I my running streak ended in I think it was in October of 22. So a couple of years ago was when I ended the running streak. I've still I mean I still have run some like here and there since then, of course, but that was when I ended the like 857 day streak. It was wild.
Speaker 2:That is wild, yeah, yeah, well, good for you, I mean, and you probably, I'm sure, now noticing such a difference in just your day-to-day life and how you're feeling, absolutely yeah, it was.
Speaker 1:It was wild when I stopped, um, and I backed off and I like, and I, you know, I followed the program, my fast rate program. I followed just those workouts liked and I, you know, I followed the program, my fast food program. I followed just those workouts the way that I was supposed to and not doing them plus running. Um, it was crazy the changes I saw in my body, like within a few weeks. Even so, like I wasn't, I wasn't, I was like leaning out in my midsection, not really hanging out of that belly fat anymore. I was able to sleep so much better. Um, I had so much more energy during the day.
Speaker 2:I wasn't falling asleep driving home anymore, and so you are now involved with coaching and nutrition. Um, and then you were, you were also sharing, so you have. You have your coaching job, but you're also a dental hygienist. So you, how are you juggling that with with your two boys, right? How are you?
Speaker 1:Yes, Well, I, I don't know, I just it's kind of a blur. That's that's what it's like right now. Um, so I my clinic schedule. I average about 25 hours a week there. So usually there's one or two days during the week that I can work in my business, my coaching business, and so, like today, for example, the kids are at school. I was not in the clinic today, so I had some time this morning and this afternoon to to really work on my business.
Speaker 1:And then evenings, like, starting at like four o'clock, that from like eight o'clock is, is sort of like as soon as the kids get off the bus, then it's dinner, get ready for practice, do whatever homework. I drive one to practice, my husband takes the other one to practice. Then I usually come home, husband comes home from one practice, goes, gets the kid from the other branches and then, um, we all sit down at the couch, finally together like 8, 15, 8, 30, and then, um, get ready for bedtime. Honestly, so the weekdays are kind of a blur, but I just I try to set some boundaries around family time and work time. So obviously, when I'm at the clinic, I'm at the clinic, um, and that's. You know, that's clinic time, I'm at the clinic. I'm at the clinic, um, and that's. You know that's clinic time.
Speaker 1:I'm respectful to my boss's time there, of course, and um, but when I'm home, um, I I do sometimes cross the line of like, okay, I need to be focused on my family and not on my work, cause I am so, like, motivated to try and grow my business and get word out, cause I want to help so many people, but also, like I would like to have a supplemental income. You know, like right now, um, I don't make a ton of money in my coaching business and and I didn't count on it, honestly, I kind of figured like when I started, the first two years would be, whatever I made would go back into the business, kind of thing. So I haven't really paid myself yet, but, um, I am, I am working on creating better boundaries around no working like past this time, or like having set set family time, which is hard because sometimes you know for them, like they just want to watch TV, or like, let's just chill and watch a movie. I don't love to watch movies, like I would rather work.
Speaker 2:Honestly, I'm not a big fan. Once in a while I will, but honestly I'm not a big fan.
Speaker 1:So that's that part's hard for me Cause I'm like what's the difference if you guys are watching a movie or I'm on the computer? But um, there is a difference, and so I do like I try to see more intentional about planning things for us to go do. So we can just get away, cause if I'm home, more than likely I'm going to like slide into the office and and start working or work from the couch.
Speaker 2:You know Right, but I'm with you on that. Like I'm not a big I'm not really big into watching TV much at all and uh, and I find that if I am, sometimes I feel like it's not even feeling guilty, it's just like I think it's something like I'd be reading a book or watching a documentary. It's really interesting sometimes. I mean, sometimes there are some shows on that are fun to watch and depending on it. But I'm just not a big TV person and so I can totally relate to that and I love that you're sharing about your family and I feel like we're touching on so many different important topics when it just comes to our complete wellness, because family time is is important and that's something that my husband and I have always made a priority as well, and and I just I can so relate to the time that you are in.
Speaker 2:I mean, our boys, my, our three children are grown older now, but we they all were in activities. My daughter was in dance and then my boys played sports, and so the evenings do get very full and it's kind of funny and you can probably relate to this. We had some friends this was before we started having our family and they would talk about how dinner was kind of a struggle to sit down and have dinner together because of the sports and the activities, and we were thinking, oh, that's, that's not going to be us. We're going to always sit down and have dinner together. And then you get into the real life and you're like, um, it doesn't happen every night, it happens as much as we can, but there's definitely. You know, running, like you said, from sport practice or games and then grabbing something quick to eat, and occasionally, on Sunday evening we'll get to all eat dinner at the same time and we're eating the same thing.
Speaker 2:That's the other kicker is usually you know, sometimes I might look out and I'll be eating at the same time but we're not eating the same thing, yeah, yeah. No, that's something we've done too through the years. Sunday, it was always the family, the family dinner time, for sure, and so it's just. As you know, even though your boys are young, it goes so fast.
Speaker 2:And and, and my husband used to always say that you know, these are, these are moments in time that we can't get back with them, right? And so you just make the most of it and you and I still, even with them older, like I was telling you, like I couldn't go to powerhouse woman this year because our family vacation with the schedules of our older kids who are working, we had to, like, coordinate everybody's schedules and that's what worked for them the time that.
Speaker 2:I would have been, and I had to just tell myself okay, shelly, there's going to be another powerhouse woman event. You can go to, even though I was like oh, it's so hard to wait a whole year. Yeah, wait a whole year, but again it's I. It's always the family first. Okay, this comes first, and, and so that's always been.
Speaker 1:You know how it's been for for us and anything for myself as well, so it sounds like for you too, so I try to remind myself that you know, like I'll like you know the time hop app I don't know if you have that or you know the time hop app I don't know if you have that or not, but like my time hop app will come up and it'll show me, you know, a video or pictures from four or five years ago, when the boys were really small, and and I I 'll catch myself thinking like I, I don't remember that anymore. You know, like it's been so long ago, like I hardly remember that. So I'm so grateful for those reminders on my time hop app. But so I'll remind myself like listen, you've got to soak this in, because this stage is going to be gone before you know it. And like I want to be more present and I want to make more memories. And and that's like I was just telling a patient last week.
Speaker 1:You know, when they were little, like that everybody would tell you that the days are long and the years are short.
Speaker 1:And now the days are short too, and and they're going faster every single week, and it's I'm just like I just don't want to wake up.
Speaker 1:And then, you know, be graduated from high school. So I'm trying to like I think that's part of why I wanted to to start this business too, with the, with the fitness and nutrition coaching is like, yes, I wanted to, you know, fulfill a different kind of passion for myself and provide a different level of service to people. But also I do want to try to make a supplement outcome so we can go on more vacations and we can go make more memories that are going to last a lifetime and not be stressed out financially or, you know, have to worry about birthday parties. Or you know, or have to worry about birthday parties or those kinds of things, because I mean, it's so crazy to me too how things are changing so cost-wise. You know, like I make a great living as a dental hygienist, but I I wasn't, was feeling like we needed, needed to produce more, but I couldn't physically give more to that job because I was exhausted.
Speaker 1:So I was like, well, you know, and also like kind of cool to teach my boys like, listen, you can do your own thing too. Like entrepreneurship is a very fulfilling role If you can. You know, get creative and and do and do your own thing. Like don't be afraid to do it. And I encourage them to do it now. So they kind of started mowing lawns this summer and stuff and yeah, love to see where that takes them yeah, and that's a whole other again.
Speaker 2:That's it's another whole aspect of the. The financial wellness piece. I mean that's something that I've. I've also been an entrepreneur for so many years alongside teaching college and it's just worked. I mean, I've been a part time. I did retire but I'm teaching a couple of classes again now, but it's always pretty much been on a part time basis. I've always been able to do something in addition, and you know it does. Really it is. It's so rewarding, so like what we're doing and we're helping others with their overall health and their wellness, so rewarding.
Speaker 2:And, and it's also something like you're saying, you can do and schedule how it works for you and your personal schedule and your day-to-day life, and to be able to do that and have some flexibility is such a blessing.
Speaker 2:I mean it really is. You can, you can, like you're saying, you'd be present, and that's been such a huge point for us too, like my husband myself, being able to go to our kids' events through the years, be able to go to as many games as we can get to, and all of the things. And you know, I remember one point very vividly I was driving back with my daughter from her dance studio one day and starting to feel like, oh gosh, like having that realization that, shelly, you're not going to be able to get to every single event, like there's three of them and two of us, you know, and being able to kind of come to that understanding and acceptance, even though it was like I want to be everywhere. But we've really been almost to you know as much as we could possibly be, to everything. But it's like you say, you, you split, you split time sometimes, and as long as one parent is with one and one's with the other, as much as you can.
Speaker 1:And you know the kids are never bothered by it. You know like I will. I'll tell, like my older son, I'm like hey, I'm so sorry that I'm gonna miss your game. I'm gonna watch the first one. Um, your, your brother, the first game and I'm gonna come to your second one. Or you know like, hey, you know your brother only has this many games and he's playing on you know, tournaments every weekend or whatever. He's like yeah, you know, mom, it's okay, has this many games and he's playing on you know tournaments every weekend or whatever. And he's like yeah, you know, mom, it's okay, I know that you get to watch me way more than him, so it's fine If you want to go to his game. And I'm like oh, it's so sweet, like their understanding of it, like it's harder on us, you know.
Speaker 2:I think that it is on them. So that's because right now our youngest just started University of Michigan and then our oldest son is coaching at Northwestern. So there it's about a three and a half four hour drive and I mean, it's not, it's out of my like, I don't mind driving, I will do it. I'm just not quite comfortable yet because it's unfamiliar. But I'm like having that struggle because initially they were both in going to be in Michigan and but our son got this amazing opportunity to to work with and now coaching a baseball team for D1, and so that's so cool, so it's super exciting. But you know, I can relate to what you're saying and it's still happening now, all these years later, and we're still like, okay, I'm gonna go, I'll go see Brayden, then my husband's going to go see our other son, cody, and it's just like you just make it work. But, as you're to your point, it is always harder on us because we want to be everywhere and we can't be everywhere. So they, they understand and you do your best, like everything, Right.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and then I then I feel bad for my mom because she's got seven grandkids and we're all like in the area and so, like on Saturday, she's torn because it's like she's got four boys playing football and, you know, not always in the same town and it's like they're they're splitting time more than they were when they were, you know, and it was just us kids. So it's I'm like, yeah, but you know again, like the kids all get it and they know that their, their cousins are around and but I just this is starting all over again for her yeah, and that's that's.
Speaker 2:That's a whole other conversation, like I had never even thought about that. The potential. You know numerous grandkids and go okay, yeah, you know, I go watch. Yeah, that's another challenge for your mom.
Speaker 2:It is, oh my goodness. Well, this has been so great, raelle. I just love it's just such a very comfortable and authentic conversation about all these areas of life, and it all comes back to our wellness and what we're doing and how we're living our day-to-day lives, and so I so appreciate you sharing. What is it? How can people find you? I mean, I'm going to share in the show notes, but what's the best way?
Speaker 1:So on Instagram I am bewellwithrel and then reldixon on Facebook and then my website is be well with relcom, so you can find more information there and I share. I share a lot on Instagram and Facebook. Um, my LinkedIn and Pinterest are not as exciting.
Speaker 2:Well, I guess they say to you know, get you know, find one or two platforms that you can be the most active on and go with it, and then the others will come in time, I'm sure.
Speaker 1:Well, yes, those are nice Cause you can link them.
Speaker 2:Yes.
Speaker 1:One shares to the other.
Speaker 2:Yes, that definitely helps, for sure.
Speaker 1:Yes, Well, thank you so much for having me. This was, this was a lot of fun. I was so excited to connect with you and hear more about your event. I was kind of watching after because I didn't learn about us after the fact, of course. I was kind of watching as you post everything and, yeah, I'm excited for you to carry that on and, yeah, maybe maybe I can get to go sometime.
Speaker 2:So, yes, thank you so much, and I would love to have you join next time for sure. So we'll definitely stay in touch over that.
Speaker 1:Yes, so any last words of inspiration or advice for our listeners before we, before we finish up here, you know, I think um, one thing that I just always like to encourage anybody who, like, is intimidated by starting their own wellness journey you know, whether that is just making healthier choices or whether it is like starting a fitness or nutrition program is to just pick one thing and and focus on that. Get better at it every day and then, once you feel like it's just part of your life, then take on the next thing. You know, just encouraging people not to overcomplicate fitness and nutrition, because you want it to be a lifelong, sustainable, healthy habit.
Speaker 2:I love that. That's so perfect. Yeah, just little baby steps. They just add up over time, right.
Speaker 1:They really do.
Speaker 2:Fantastic. Well, thank you, so so much.
Speaker 2:Thank you and to all of our listeners take time for you on this day, takes time for your own personal wellness and have a beautiful, blessed rest of your week and we will see you next time on Words of Wellness. Thank you so much for tuning into today's episode. I hope you gained value and enjoyed our time together as much as I did, and if you know someone who could benefit from today's episode, I would love and appreciate it if you could share with a friend or rate and review Words of Wellness so that more can hear this message. I love and appreciate you all. Thank you for listening and if you have any questions or topics you would like me to share in future episodes, please don't hesitate to reach out to me through my contact information that is shared in the show notes below. Again, thank you for tuning in to Words of Wellness. My name is Shelly Jeffries and I encourage you to do something for you, for your wellness, on this day. Until next time, I hope you all have a healthy, happy and blessed week. Thank you.